Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.

The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com (via professorpinka)

And as a teenager I was told I had trouble saying no as if it was a moral failing on my part, when I was just doing what girls were obviously supposed to do ‘cause everyone told me I was one.

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Thoughts

Darkness cannot exist without light, as light cannot exist without darkness. This reflects what we do; we cannot truly rid the world of crime.

There will always be something that can linger in the back of everyone’s psyches, there will always be the capacity to perform what could be called ‘evil’, in every human being. It depends on the person and the choices they make, and there is also what is called ‘shades of gray’ - what is ‘evil’, and what is ‘good’, cannot be truly defined and so starkly differentiated.

But we still strive to do so, because it makes a difference. No matter how small.

((OOC: There are times when I really wonder. Yes, these words are similar to how I think.))

travelingcolors:

Floating Ripple Vases (by oodesign)

Fill your favorite container with water and float the vase. According to the movement of the air, the plants change their position within the container.

Yes, I still appreciate things like this. It is hard to find simplicity in these hectic days, so I enjoy what I can find.

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Movie Date || misora-n

ryukisbored:

A dark shinigami Ryuk floated listlessly past buildings, his mind at a loss for what to do for the rest of the day. It was late evening, which meant humans had probably stopped working and school, but Light, as always, was going to cram school, or doing extra detective work, or something equally boring that he, Ryuk, would rather not join in on. For the entirety of today Ryuk had contented himself with looking at pictures of apples on the compooter (since for some odd reason the apples in the stores weren’t as juicy as usual), but Light had kicked Ryuk off of the compooter to use it for his own work.

Now here he was, without anything to do, nothing new to watch, and nobody to bother. The shinigami looked round him at the hustle of humans rushing home to do whatever other boring things they had planned, at the windows full of boring things that nobody really wanted to buy, and at the maybe-not-as-boring cinema sign just a few ways ahead.

“Eh?” On closer inspection, Ryuk thought he saw a head of long dark hair; the figure was wearing a familiar outfit and standing in a familiar pose. Curious, and wondering if she was who he thought she was, he retracted his wings, and poked his head in front of hers to look at her face.

Naomi blinked as the now-familiar face of the shinigami appeared in front of her, and raised an eyebrow. “Ryuk,” she greeted, slightly surprised to see him here, and not with his usual choice of company, Yagami-san. The tawny-haired youth was nowhere in sight, but she remembered, from days at the headquarters, that he had a tendency to shoo Ryuk away when he was deep in work.

She had been initially shocked, and fearful, that time when she had first seen the shinigami. There was also the fact that there was something undeniably strange about the boy, Raito, especially when she had a feeling of unease, and what deception she thought she saw in his eyes for a moment. There were her suspicions on the pair, of course, but L was the one who would decide if there was enough evidence to condemn or to judge.

Ryuk, she had learned as time passed with the Kira case, was actually a rather pleasant person to be around. To call him odd would be a huge understatement, but she found herself not really minding. He was easygoing, and had a quirky sense of humor so to speak of. It was a contrast to the tension during the investigation, and a welcomed one during her off times. There was always that odd feeling that he knew something the others, including her, did not, and the amusement that came with it - but it was not malicious, more like it was just entertainment for him. He loved apples, which was quite endearing of him.

She smiled slightly, a faint tugging at the corner of her lips.

It was also a welcome occurrence, seeing as her current task was proving unfruitful. L had asked her to take upon tailing an auspicious lead in the case, a businessman, but so far the man had done nothing to rouse her suspicions - other than looking too well-practiced with his routine, like he had planned it, like he had expected this. He might not know who was following, but he knew there was something going on. He was currently heading to the cinema with his spouse, looking for all the world a caring, dignified and accomplished partner.

… if this did happen to him every year, I am unsure whether to be amused or sorry for him…
((OOC: Happy Easter! ^_^))

… if this did happen to him every year, I am unsure whether to be amused or sorry for him…

((OOC: Happy Easter! ^_^))

kawaii-piers:

Don’t hesitate to remind me if I owe you a reply.

Don’t be scared to ask me something.

Don’t be scared to rp with me.

Just saying.

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hashtagagella:

d-ark-paradis-e:

serene-escape:

ilike-turtles:

itllturnoutfine:

never-tolate:

h0lytits:

mostswagshit:

pandax33:

beating-ed:

just-that-amazingg:

toescapemyownmind:

Oh my god. This made me cry. Will you really be there for me?

to all my followers<3<3

To everyone & to anyone :) 

i will always be there for my followers, if only they ever hit me up =/
just talk to me :p <33 i will never never ever delete your message <3

anonymous or not ill help you out, ill keep things personal and answer privately <3

i’m always here for everyone <3 and if you’re off anonymous i’ll respond privately<3 i will never judge you.

anonymous or not, I will help you with any problem you guys have. I will respond privately, I’m here. I promise. <3

guys, im serious.  im here for anything you need without judgement, on or off anon<3 i love you guys.



To all my followers


Please, I really mean it guys <3


i hope you know this guys. i am ALWAYS here for you. always. 

OMFG MY OLD URL (just-that-amazingg) AWWW but this is still to all my followers ♡♡

hashtagagella:

d-ark-paradis-e:

serene-escape:

ilike-turtles:

itllturnoutfine:

never-tolate:

h0lytits:

mostswagshit:

pandax33:

beating-ed:

just-that-amazingg:

toescapemyownmind:

Oh my god. This made me cry. Will you really be there for me?

to all my followers<3<3

To everyone & to anyone :) 

i will always be there for my followers, if only they ever hit me up =/

just talk to me :p <33 i will never never ever delete your message <3

anonymous or not ill help you out, ill keep things personal and answer privately <3

i’m always here for everyone <3 and if you’re off anonymous i’ll respond privately<3 i will never judge you.

anonymous or not, I will help you with any problem you guys have. I will respond privately, I’m here. I promise. <3

guys, im serious.  im here for anything you need without judgement, on or off anon<3 i love you guys.

To all my followers
Please, I really mean it guys <3

i hope you know this guys. i am ALWAYS here for you. always. 

OMFG MY OLD URL (just-that-amazingg) AWWW but this is still to all my followers ♡♡

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fragileminded:

hiddlestonhug:

laylacon:

tropical-cave:

tropical-cave:

brianmchale:

welcometomylifeex3:

raquelsh0lding0ntillmay:

foundmywaywheniwaslost:

alittledoseofsunshine:

sort-of-un-balanced:

I posted this three times tonight and had three people tell me that I helped save their life. Thank you to those people who have decided to struggle through to let us enjoy the gift of one more day of their prescence gracing us all. I hope that you all reblog this, to save another few. Because we all dserve another chance and hope in life. I went to the hospital 6 times before I decided to keep my life but I hope none of you suffer that much. And I hope you all can make that scary, seemingly painful, blind, hoping, wonderful step to live.
I want to help you in any way I can. ANYTHING. I mean it. If I had had someone stay with me and text me or talk to me all night, just one time, it would have changed my life. I know how hard those nights can be.
&lt;3,
Love,
Emily

^I love this girl more than words can express.  

foundmywaywheniwaslost: I am always here if anyone ever needs to talk/vent. You have a purpose, Please Stay Alive. &lt;3

Not just for tonight but for the rest of your life. You have so much to look forward to in the future that if you choose to kill yourself, it will be the biggest mistake of your life. You’re going to miss out on people you’ll never be able to meet, kids you’ll never have, a partner to love or partys to go to. There’s just too much that you’ll miss out on. You deserve and have the right to be here as much as the person next to you does. You’re just a drop in the ocean. You were meant to be here and you have a purpose. Don’t ever forget that. And if you feel like you don’t, just believe in yourself because you do. If you ever feel worthless or like shit, know that I love you and those dicks that tell you shit are jealous that you’re who you are because there’s something about you that they wish they could have. Please stay strong and never give up because things DO GET BETTER.

3rd time I reblog this xx

Keep your self awake, I hope your here to stay. This day is not yet over, let me be your four leaf clover.

Reblogged it and queued it so it’ll post tomorrow too. And the next day and the next so I hope I can save someone. We all love you.

someone messaged me this morning saying it helped and thanked me, so im reblogging this again, and queuing it. stay strong guys. 

I reblog this whenever I see it. If you don’t reblog it, unfollow me right now. If you don’t care enough to put this simple picture on your blog, I’m judging you.

The very first time that I reblogged this, I had someone message me the next day saying that because of me, they didn’t kill themself. From then on whenever I see anything like this on Tumblr it’s an instant reblog for me. After receiving that message it just changed something in me. Whenever anyone I see on my dash is having thoughts of self-harm or even suicide, I automatically go to their page and offer them even just an ear to listen. Nearly all of them I receive messages back from saying that they are grateful, and they end up sharing their story with me, and in return I give them advice as best I can. Several of them have said that their lives have gotten much better because they opened up and sought out help.
Out of those people, I’d say at least 5  have even gone so far as to say that they didn’t kill themself because of me. That is, I kid you not, the best feeling in the world.

I needed this reminder. 

fragileminded:

hiddlestonhug:

laylacon:

tropical-cave:

tropical-cave:

brianmchale:

welcometomylifeex3:

raquelsh0lding0ntillmay:

foundmywaywheniwaslost:

alittledoseofsunshine:

sort-of-un-balanced:

I posted this three times tonight and had three people tell me that I helped save their life. Thank you to those people who have decided to struggle through to let us enjoy the gift of one more day of their prescence gracing us all. I hope that you all reblog this, to save another few. Because we all dserve another chance and hope in life. I went to the hospital 6 times before I decided to keep my life but I hope none of you suffer that much. And I hope you all can make that scary, seemingly painful, blind, hoping, wonderful step to live.

I want to help you in any way I can. ANYTHING. I mean it. If I had had someone stay with me and text me or talk to me all night, just one time, it would have changed my life. I know how hard those nights can be.

<3,

Love,

Emily

^I love this girl more than words can express.  

foundmywaywheniwaslost: I am always here if anyone ever needs to talk/vent. You have a purpose, Please Stay Alive. <3

Not just for tonight but for the rest of your life. You have so much to look forward to in the future that if you choose to kill yourself, it will be the biggest mistake of your life. You’re going to miss out on people you’ll never be able to meet, kids you’ll never have, a partner to love or partys to go to. There’s just too much that you’ll miss out on. You deserve and have the right to be here as much as the person next to you does. You’re just a drop in the ocean. You were meant to be here and you have a purpose. Don’t ever forget that. And if you feel like you don’t, just believe in yourself because you do. If you ever feel worthless or like shit, know that I love you and those dicks that tell you shit are jealous that you’re who you are because there’s something about you that they wish they could have. Please stay strong and never give up because things DO GET BETTER.

3rd time I reblog this xx

Keep your self awake, I hope your here to stay. This day is not yet over, let me be your four leaf clover.

Reblogged it and queued it so it’ll post tomorrow too. And the next day and the next so I hope I can save someone. We all love you.

someone messaged me this morning saying it helped and thanked me, so im reblogging this again, and queuing it. stay strong guys. 

I reblog this whenever I see it. If you don’t reblog it, unfollow me right now. If you don’t care enough to put this simple picture on your blog, I’m judging you.

The very first time that I reblogged this, I had someone message me the next day saying that because of me, they didn’t kill themself. From then on whenever I see anything like this on Tumblr it’s an instant reblog for me. After receiving that message it just changed something in me. Whenever anyone I see on my dash is having thoughts of self-harm or even suicide, I automatically go to their page and offer them even just an ear to listen. Nearly all of them I receive messages back from saying that they are grateful, and they end up sharing their story with me, and in return I give them advice as best I can. Several of them have said that their lives have gotten much better because they opened up and sought out help.

Out of those people, I’d say at least 5  have even gone so far as to say that they didn’t kill themself because of me. That is, I kid you not, the best feeling in the world.

I needed this reminder. 

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